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Jacque

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Our daughter just turned 3 and I know that she will soon be asking questions regarding adoption. How did some of you handle this and at what age?

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Jacque
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Our son is 21 months, and we talk about adoption all the time with him. He loves to look at pictures of Guatemala, and we talk about his foster family (because they had him 9 1/2 months) as well as his birth family. We also make sure that we emphasize how lucky WE are, as opposed to how lucky HE is.

(Today is our 1st "Gotcha" day - we haven't decided for sure if that's what we're calling it, but it's been an awesome year!)
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We've also talked about adoption with our little guy basically from the day he came home. He has pics of his birthmom and his foster family in his room and in his photo book, along with pics of us, and we tell him who everyone is. He's got books on Guatemala and on adoption and we read them regularly. He's only 17 months, so doesn't understand, but we figure it will sink in gradually, over time. When he gets older and starts asking questions, we figure we will read more direct, explicit books and talk to him more directly about it.
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I have been talking about my son's adoption from the time we arrived home. I thought if I talked about it from the beginning, he would begin to understand slowly and there would never be a time he did not know [his story].

The first indication I had that he had any understanding was when a few months ago, I was putting a photo book together, I told him it was for "birth mother's name," and he said, "oh, tummy." He knew he grew in her tummy.

I also have pictures with Jack and his birth mother, Jack and his foster family and our family in a frame. That is a lot of love!

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Saw this on another forum and thought I'd pass it on, FYI.

On this week’s (Nov. 26) Creating a Family internet radio show, Ellen Singer, adoption therapist and educator with The Center for Adoption Support & Education, will be interviewed about how children understand and process the concept of adoption at different ages, and how parents can talk about adoption with their children. Send any questions to dawn @creatingafamily.com (delete space) and listen in either during the show (12-1 Eastern Time) or after it air at the radio page of http://www.CreatingaFamily.com. Please pass the news about this show to other forums and groups.



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Jacque

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Thank you for your responses! They were all very helpful.

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Jacque
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